In my experience, most men don’t stop to ask where a specific turn-on came from. They just know it’s there, they know it’s oddly specific, and they’ve usually spent more energy hiding it or feeling strange about it than actually understanding it. That’s worth changing. Not because every fetish needs a tidy origin story, but … Continued
There’s a pattern almost every man I work with recognizes when I describe it. He acts. He feels shame. The shame is almost unbearable. To escape the shame, he reaches for the thing he’s ashamed of. Which generates more shame. Which generates another reach. This is the shame loop. And it is one of the … Continued
Almost every long-term couple eventually runs into some version of this: one partner wants sex more often, or differently, or in a way the other partner doesn’t. It’s called desire discrepancy, and it’s less an exception in marriage than a near-universal feature of it – though almost nobody talks about it plainly. For men working … Continued
You’ve probably already tried to stop. Maybe more than once. Maybe more times than you can count. You’ve done the streak, broken it, reset the counter, felt the crash, sworn it off again. You’ve deleted apps. Cleared history. Made the internal promise — this is the last time — with total sincerity and broken it … Continued
If you’ve been googling “porn addiction” at midnight, you’re not alone. But the label you land on matters more than most people realize — because the framework you use to understand the problem shapes every decision you make about what to do next. Here’s the problem with calling it an addiction. The addiction model was … Continued
In discussions about sexual health, it’s common to label certain sexual behaviors as “addictive.” However, understanding sexual behaviors in context – rather than immediately pathologizing them—can lead to far deeper insights about healing, intimacy, and self-acceptance. One powerful example comes from The Myth of Sex Addiction by Dr. David Ley, who draws on his earlier … Continued
Sex addiction is a term that gets thrown around a lot, but research and clinical evidence suggest it isn’t actually a valid diagnosis. While sexual compulsivity can cause distress, it doesn’t meet the criteria for addiction as defined in the DSM-5, the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Understanding Addiction Addiction is classified under … Continued